The difference between winning and succeeding


Rarely will you hear a coach tell you that it’s OK to lose, but despite the importance of winning, let us for a moment de-emphasize winning, and steer your attention more toward succeeding. Success is not about the outcome, rather it is about the journey. Success is peace of mind attained only through self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to do the best of which you’re capable.

Give it your all

Never scout an opposing team, instead devote your time and meticulous attention to making sure your team is prepared to do their best, rather than trying to be better than another team. There are only so many variables of performance and success that we have control over: hours of practice, stamina, strength, and mentality. Practice is where the work happens; the game is just a measure of the effectiveness of the work that you have put in.


Self-reflection and evaluation

Champion always go back and reevaluate their performance, they watch game tapes and sit down with their teammates to figure out what could have been done better. They know that there is something to be learned from their mistakes. While their best effort may not yield the results they want, that’s okay because the purpose is to give your best effort regardless of the final score.

Focus your energy

Learning how to direct your energy toward your most rewarding tasks is crucial for achieving high levels of success. One of the biggest mistakes that many people make is directing their energy towards low-valued tasks. Take a look at everything you have going on right now in your life.  Pay close attention and ask yourself what the high-valued tasks are — the ones that have the potential to bring the most reward to you and your life.


Take inventory of your thoughts

Success is a mentality. If your thoughts are directed more toward winning, gaining the esteem of others, meeting another’s expectations of you or outperforming someone else then you’ve lost the game before it’s even begun. Look beyond your thoughts and examine the behavior, feelings, and beliefs that led to your thoughts in the first place. Reiterate to yourself your goals, both short-term and long, and how you’re going to accomplish them. Once you are certain where you’re headed, your thoughts will get into alignment with your direction.